Kate Bailey (00:00.238)
Welcome. You are listening to the Play Big Queen podcast. This is for you if you are a woman who is an entrepreneur, business owner, professional, leader, or someone who is deeply committed to personal growth, self-improvement, transformation, and living authentically. This is especially for you if you have an invisible disability, whether you are diagnosed,
undiagnosed, self-diagnosed, or late diagnosed, and you are working on reclaiming your neurodivergent identity, rebuilding confidence, learning what works for your unique brilliance while breaking free from small, people-pleasing conditioning. If you are a visionary change maker interested in advancing your leadership and creating success on your terms, and you want to leave a legacy, if you are navigating disability or neurodiversity as an individual or as an ally, and you are looking for a support
supportive and inclusive environment to thrive, then this is for you. I am your hostess, Kate Bailey. I am the Play Big Queen. My name is my title and a command for all women. Play Big Queen. I invite you to claim this title for yourself and coronate your Play Big self too, if it serves you. I am a business and embodiment mentor working with women who are ready to rise the fuck up and be your bold, beautiful
sexy-ass self, start and grow your big bold vision and claim that you too get to have your boldest desires. I am the creatrix of Kate Bailey LLC, which provides coaching services, educational courses, products and experiences that promote success in neurodiversity advocacy, women's empowerment, embodiment, entrepreneurship and business to serve women on their transformational journey.
To learn more about my company offerings and to get on my email list, go to xxxkatebailey.com. If you would like to learn more about my work, my personal values, my mission and my community, make sure you catch the last five minutes of this episode to go deeper and learn so much more. On this podcast, sometimes we will have guests, sometimes I'll do solo episodes, but every single time you listen, you will expand. So get ready.
Kate Bailey (02:22.04)
It's a new era for women on the Play Big path. Long may we reign. Yes, yes, yes. I am so excited. You are listening to the Play Big Queen podcast. This is where we talk about the sacred, the strategic, and the seriously embodied. I am your host, Kate Bailey. And if you're new here,
I'm a neurodivergent coach, a sensual strategist, and the creator of Hot Erotic Messy Money, a body-led workshop for women who are done with perfectionism and ready to rewrite their money story from the hips up. I'll share more about Hot Erotic Messy Money at the end of this podcast. I am so excited because the doors are now officially open, but today's episode is being recorded in the middle of a really hard week.
You may have seen the headlines. The US has launched missile strikes. There is grief in the air. There's war on the horizon, tension. The body always knows. And I want to hold space for that today while also offering you something else, a different kind of wealth conversation, a permission slip to feel joy, even now. A small, powerful shift
that you can make today that could change how you relate to money forever. Let's start with the truth and the infinite intelligence of your body. Your body knows when the world is in crisis. Even if you're not watching the news 24-7, your nervous system is constantly scanning for danger. And for neurodivergent folk, that internal radar is even sharper. Maybe you felt it.
that tension in your jaw that just doesn't go away, the heaviness in your chest, the resignation with that why bother feeling when you open up your laptop to work or check your bank account. And then if you're like many women in our community, you start blaming yourself. Why can't I just focus? Why do I keep avoiding this launch?
Kate Bailey (04:35.046)
Why does money feel so far away when I am working so damn hard? My highly sensitive people, my empaths, my neurodivergent people who just have such a strong sense of social justice, there is nothing wrong with you. No matter how much you might want to beat yourself up for not doing enough, you are not lazy. We are all living in late stage capitalism, under patriarchy, in a body that was never meant
to be a machine for the 1%. So of course you are feeling it. The exhaustion, the freeze, the quiet panic behind the spreadsheets and the shame. But what if you didn't have to fix yourself to move forward? What if instead you learn to move with yourself? Because here's the truth that you might not know about your relationship to money as a woman.
Money was never meant to be sterile. It was never meant to be disconnected or shaming. That is money under patriarchy. Long before banks and billionaires, there was Juno Monetta, Roman goddess of protection, memory, and divine warning. She wasn't a goddess of marriage or motherhood. She was the guardian of wealth. And it was in
Juno Monetta's temple on Capitoline Hill that Rome first minted its coins. Not a man's Senate, not in a marketplace, but in a temple, sacred, feminine, and sovereign. The word money comes from her name. Let that sink in for a moment. Monetta. Money began in the hands of a goddess.
not as a tool of control, but as a form of sacred value, not rooted in scarcity, but in memory and power, not born in greed, but in protection, provision, and feminine leadership. Juno Manetha reminds us that we are not intruding in a man's world. We are returning to our temple.
Kate Bailey (07:02.979)
We are returning to the knowing that women were always meant to hold money, to shape it, to bless it, to lead with it. And that's what we do inside hot, erotic, messy money. We don't heal money shame with spreadsheets and getting your budget perfect. We heal it by coming home to the body, to sensation, to desire.
to erotic power pulsing through our hips. We repattern money not from the mind, but from the nervous system up. You don't have to fix yourself to be wealthy. You don't have to perform for the patriarchy to be worthy. You just have to remember who you are. I think it's important to know that when I say erotic wealth, I'm not talking about
lingerie or performance. Although those things can be totally pleasurable and things that genuinely turn you on. But no, I am talking about the root of the word Eros, which is life force, desire, turn on, love, anything that brings you aliveness that your soul is a yes to. In a week like this, when the news is heavy,
and we are all bracing ourselves for the next disaster. Your erotic energy is sacred and precious because it reminds you, you are alive. You are still here and you are not just a responder to the world's pain. You are a creator of beauty, of pleasure and power. And that is not an accident. As a woman,
that is your birthright. And that is why this moment, this launch, and this work matters so much at this time. Hot, erotic, messy money isn't about getting rich quick. Far from it. It is about building a relationship with wealth that is rooted in your body, not in shame, not in hustle, and not in a trauma reenactment.
Kate Bailey (09:26.622)
It's about money that turns you on and not the kind of money that burns you out. Because when women like us reclaim pleasure, money, and creativity, we stop settling for scraps. We stop conforming. We stop collapsing in fear. And we start saying yes to a future that we create. That's not from a place of reaction, but from a place
truly building what we desire most. Now, I want you to have a small win today. So let's do a somatic repatterning exercise. Let's do something that you can feel right now, even if you're sitting in your car, in your bed, or folding your laundry. This is called the felt yes practice, and it's about five minutes long.
So first, I invite you to get present. If it's safe for you to do so, gently close your eyes or you can simply soften your gaze.
and let your breath slow.
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Bring one hand to your lower belly and one hand to your chest.
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Start to picture a past moment of yes, a time when something felt aligned, a time where you had a full-body yes, a time when you followed your desire and it worked out even in the smallest way. Maybe it was saying no to a toxic job or yes to a trip or finally buying yourself
That velvet robe that made you feel like a goddamn queen. Take a moment to feel it.
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and let the memory drop into your body.
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Notice what does your yes feel like?
Is it a tingling? Is it heat? A breath that becomes easier?
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Anchor it. Anchor this feeling into your body. Let your body learn that this is feeling safe.
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Now connect this feeling to money.
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What would it be like to feel that yes in your money life? In checking your bank balance, in charging more for your work, in buying something that supports your joy?
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Now let that image exist for a second. No fixing, no effort, just letting your body feel what it's like to be in right relationship with money.
This is the root of all transformation and all manifestation. It's not simply the logical steps like tracking your money. It's not the shame or the conditioned felt sense that we've been taught to have about money. It is the felt sense of safety and desire coexisting.
Let me tell you the kind of things that happen when you do this work inside hot, erotic, messy money. One woman quit her job and started making double in her business, not because of strategy, but because she stopped betraying her energy. Another woman paid off 5K in debt in three months after 10 years of freezing around her money debts, simply because she felt safe looking at her money again.
She was in a relationship where she gave her money attention and her money took care of her in return. Another neurodivergent client who used to spiral in analysis paralysis started making messy, joyful sales videos from her bathtub and she started loving marketing for the first time. This is the power of erotic wealth work. It doesn't come from fixing yourself.
It comes from feeling yourself, literally. It's okay that you don't feel hot and sexy all the time, but when you learn to feel yourself and be present with yourself through the entire range of your experience, that is where the juice is in erotic wealth work.
Kate Bailey (14:52.746)
Okay, this episode was a quickie because there's so much going on in the world. I truly want you to take a moment to get out of your head and be in your body in the feelings around our little exercise that we just went through in this episode. And while you're feeling around the experience of connecting safety with desires, check in with yourself.
because we are in the super early bird window right now, which means the Hot Erotic Messy Money Workshop is just $97 until July 11th. And although the experience itself is phenomenal, I have been known to throw in little last minute bonuses into different sections of the portal where you log on.
And if you enroll now, you can start early, get access to the preparation list to see what's involved. You could energetically get in the game now instead of waiting for the world to calm down because it won't. And honestly, this world is just not gonna give you permission to rest, to create, or to feel joy. You have to schedule it. You have to give it to yourself. You have to commit to it.
And inside Hot Erotic Messy Money, we get to do that together. So my loves, if you are listening to this and you are finding yourself holding grief or fear, exhaustion, but also desire, curiosity, and a quiet inner whisper that says, there is more for me than Hot Erotic Messy Money is for you.
This is the work that rewires everything from your nervous system to your bank account and you don't have to keep forcing yourself to be productive in a world that is falling apart, sister, take a break. You can move through all this with softness, strategy, and turn on. Go to my super sexy website where the doors are wide open, ready to receive you at hoteroticmessymoney.com.
Kate Bailey (17:09.176)
Super early bird is open and you my little twerkin tweet tweet birdie belong here. And I am so honored to do this work with you. And listen, I'm holding this offer now because this is the work my body is craving. I am so with you in this experience. I want a place to show up. I want a place to get messy, to get raw, to get real.
and to renew my vows in my money relationship in the most sacred way and remember who the fuck I am as a powerful woman with money because we can know it in our bones, it can be who we are, but the world is just worlden and sometimes we need to reinforce who we are or who we are becoming. Okay, my loves.
This episode has been your home for embodiment, power, and unapologetic joy. Until next time, stay tender, stay turned on, and please, my queen, stay in your body. Okay, that's it for this episode of the Play Big Queen podcast. Thank you so much for sharing your time with me. As always, eat the fruit, spit out the seeds, take what nourishes you, keep what resonated for you.
and leave the rest because ultimately you know best. This episode is over until next time, but we can keep this thing going. Go to xxxkatebailey.com, scroll to the bottom where it says join our community and get on the email list to get all the juicy details about all my offerings and where Play Big Queens play together online, on social media and in person. We've got a tight community of women claiming their boldest desires, celebrating wins, playing all out, fiercely standing for each other.
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Kate Bailey (19:30.202)
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I want you to know that my door is always open and I will always make space for you to be heard and to honor your experience. The views expressed in this podcast are through the lens of my personal identity and my own lived experience. I am a European mix Mediterranean mutt who is an Italian Sicilian, cis heterosexual woman born in New York, experiencing the world in a white body as a multiply neurodivergent.
who lives in a neurodiverse and racially blended family. And like everyone else, my one single perspective comes with its own limitations. I have done personal and professional work around anti-racism, diversity, equity, equality, and inclusion. I am not a therapist or doctor, and any coaching or advice cannot take the place of professional medical, mental health, or healing help. However, that being said,
What happens in my work is often a very powerful additional supplemental or alternative way to heal around identity work, mindset and emotional wellness. Although I am not a licensed therapist, it is worth noting that in addition to being a mentor, I am trained and certified in emergency medicine and response. I have rendered care to over 20,000 patients in the course of my career. I have taught over 15,000 students, many of which
at learning disabilities that were undiagnosed and came from diverse cultural backgrounds. I was also a private health college adjunct professor who was responsible for training medical professionals on how to respond to trauma and behavioral emergencies. If you approach me with any concern, you will be met with professionalism, compassion, tact, understanding, support, and a readiness and a willingness to advocate for your needs. That being said, sometimes I just get it wrong.
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I am a human being on my own growth journey after all. When I mess up, I'm always available for courageous and crucial conversation that makes way for growth and healing. Your experience and voice matters to me. I sincerely welcome any feedback you feel called to share. You can email your comments or concerns to info at playbigqueen.com knowing that I am open to having any and all crucial conversations needed. Okay.
Remember, you are brilliant. Celebrate yourself. Value your own unique way and honor your own timing. Because you can totally create a life and business that feels good and is successful on your terms. Remember to release expectations of what you think your Play Big process should look like and be willing to do the work that needs to be done to Play Big. But most of all, when you come face to face with your boldest desires, remember to trust yourself.
and play big clean.
Kate Bailey (22:45.438)
Hi, queen. I see you're in it for the long game. If you reach this part of the podcast episode, it means you're interested in learning more about my work, my values, my mission, and my community. So let's go deeper together. I am here to activate neurodivergent women to play bigger and to show you that you are so capable of doing big things and that if you value your own unique way and honor your own timing, you will learn to receive your boldest desires and so much more.
In my world, what makes you different is valued, celebrated, honored, and welcome. I welcome all who identify as female and non-binary folk in my Play Big Queens community. We believe in and support LGBTQIA plus 2S, Black Lives Matter, women's and pro-choice rights, and obviously intersectional identities, including disabilities, neurodivergence, and religious beliefs. Personally, I am pro-sex worker rights.
pro-Palestinian liberation, against Islamophobia, and against anti-Semitism, and I'm also against any cult-like religions that use beliefs as an excuse to indoctrinate people into abusive, autocratic systems. Like many neurodivergent people, we have big hearts and a strong sense of social justice around here. You are encouraged to stay and play in our Play Big Queen community if you share these values. For those who find the word queen does not resonate.
Perhaps because of imperial associations, the Play Big self archetype can take any form and the invitation and activation remains the same. To learn to embody your Play Big self, to operate from love instead of fear, to go on a Play Big journey in community because you know that no Play Big queen can truly Play Big.
alone. To decide to cultivate the courage to use your voice, unmask, reclaim, embrace and embody your brilliance and create a life and business that works with the unique way that you work. Through this work, you will come to know the truth of your brilliance deeply. And as you come to know your authentic self, more and more will begin to open up for you. Knowing your unique brilliance will lead to great success and true belonging. In this world, we take the pressure off.
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and learn to step off the traditional path so you can blaze your own trail. My mission is to get you motivated, inspired, and equipped to get into massive action and go on your very own Play Big journey. My mission is to empower at least 10,000 women to fully step into their Play Big self by offering healing, transformative, inclusive, and neurodiverse affirming coaching and content.
Through innovative coaching programs, courses, and master classes, we provide the tools, support, sustainability, and community needed to help each woman embrace her unique path to confidence, success, and meaningful impact. If just 10,000 women with invisible disabilities and their allies were empowered with neurodiverse affirming and inclusive communication to express their unique brilliance, step into their authority and autonomy and lead,
the world would experience a profound shift towards inclusivity, innovation, and empathy. These women would break through societal limitations, modeling resilience, creativity, and strength of diversity. Their voices and perspectives, often shaped by unique experiences with challenges and perseverance, would redefine business leadership, inspire systemic change, and create spaces where diverse ways of thinking are not just accepted
but celebrated. Industries and communities would become more accessible and inclusive with practices that honor varied ways of working, communicating, and achieving. This change would ripple into every area of life and society. Workplaces would become more adaptable, offering a culture of respect for individual strengths. Healthcare and education systems would improve centering accessibility and compassion in their approaches. And policies would evolve to better support
those with invisible challenges benefiting society as a whole. So many women with so much potential are shrinking in the face of their own brilliance, just sitting on the sidelines waiting for permission instead of getting in the game. The activation of the latent potential in these women, their empowerment, making them visible.
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would inspire others, reduce stigma around invisible disabilities, and encourage everyone to lead authentically. Their successes will light the way for countless more women to rise, creating a culture of true diversity where every person feels valued, included, and emboldened to contribute their brilliance and lead with it. If you know you are ready for more clarity, confidence, and you want to embody your play big self and be supported around creating the
big vision for your life and business, then send me an email at info at playbigqueen.com telling me why this work is so important for you and we can explore opportunities to work together and make your Play Big dreams a reality.
