Episode 18 Transcript
Welcome. You are listening to the Play Big Queen podcast. This is for you if you are a woman who is an entrepreneur, business owner, professional, leader, or someone who is deeply committed to personal growth, self-improvement, transformation, and living authentically. This is especially for you if you have an invisible disability, whether you are diagnosed,
undiagnosed, self-diagnosed, or late diagnosed, and you are working on reclaiming your neurodivergent identity, rebuilding confidence, learning what works for your unique brilliance while breaking free from small, people-pleasing conditioning. If you are a visionary change maker interested in advancing your leadership and creating success on your terms, and you want to leave a legacy, if you are navigating disability or neurodiversity as an individual or as an ally, and you are looking for a support
supportive and inclusive environment to thrive, then this is for you. I am your hostess, Kate Bailey. I am the Play Big Queen. My name is my title and a command for all women. Play Big Queen. I invite you to claim this title for yourself and coronate your Play Big self too, if it serves you. I am a business and embodiment mentor working with women who are ready to rise the fuck up and be your bold, beautiful
sexy-ass self, start and grow your big bold vision and claim that you too get to have your boldest desires. I am the creatrix of Kate Bailey LLC, which provides coaching services, educational courses, products and experiences that promote success in neurodiversity advocacy, women's empowerment, embodiment, entrepreneurship and business to serve women on their transformational journey.
To learn more about my company offerings and to get on my email list, go to xxxkatebailey.com. If you would like to learn more about my work, my personal values, my mission and my community, make sure you catch the last five minutes of this episode to go deeper and learn so much more. On this podcast, sometimes we will have guests, sometimes I'll do solo episodes, but every single time you listen, you will expand. So get ready.
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It's a new era for women on the Play Big path. Long may we reign. Hey, Queen, you are listening to the Play Big Queen podcast where we don't play small, we don't tone it down, and we don't pretend to fit in boxes we were never built for.
Hi, I'm Kate Bailey. I wrote a really informative post on my Facebook page this week about performative inclusion versus authentic inclusion in leadership, I said I was going to turn it into a podcast episode for this week, and I did, but I also operate in the neurodiversion time zone, so I almost forgot that I wanted to do a Mother's Day episode.
Also, my sense of time has been little bit off. I've been sick this past week. You can probably hear it in my voice. I have a sore throat and I've been a little under the weather. But I started to remember that I wanted to do a Mother's Day episode when my husband Tony and my stepson Jair gave me my Mother's Day present. They totally surprised me. I didn't see it coming. And they were so
creative. They redecorated our back patio and our little desert bunker home to look like this vibey coffee shop lounge with bistro lighting and a drum coffee table and they added a flower box with marigolds and now we have a fern on the back porch in the corner that we now call Herb along with this oversized papazan chair to lounge in and it's all set on top of
green Astro turf and a Turkish carpet runner with throw pillows and candles and even a new fluffy dog bed for Foxy. I'm recording this episode right now on the porch surrounded by all this new vibey goodness so if you hear cars in the distance that's why. But I love this so much. I think every woman
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could appreciate any gift that amplifies beauty and safety in her surroundings.
2025, the day after Mother's Day, we are doing a Mother's Day episode. And no matter where you're at on this journey, if you're a mom, you have a mom, you mother puppies, you mother people in the community as a teacher or you're remothering yourself, whatever your motherhood status or individual journey looks like, I am so sure that there is some gold in this episode for you. And even though this episode
is all inclusive and I truly believe that no matter what your mother situation is, you can get something out of this. I want to talk specifically to the neurodivergent women out there who are mothering or who have been mothered in ways that shaped you forever. Then again next week I'll drop all the gold about authentic inclusion but like today is going to be stories about grief, healing, medication, loss, stepmotherhood and sacred reclamation.
This episode is especially for you if you've ever wondered what it means to be both deeply sensitive and wildly capable, to carry others while still re-parenting yourself, to hold the weight of invisible labor while breaking generational patterns in real time. And we're also going to talk about something that's rarely talked about plainly, how hard it can be to be a woman, a mother, and neurodivergent all at once.
ADHD alone can impact time, attention, emotional regulation, and sensory thresholds. And the layers of patriarchy and motherhood expectations, that creates a perfect storm of pressure, overstimulation, and deep shame. So let's unpack this. Again, I am ADHD. My relationship with my mother growing up was complicated. She used to say that
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My brother would cry about getting on the school bus, but me? I was like, bye, see ya. I was independent from jump and always ready for the next adventure. I didn't want to be tied down or held back, especially by sentimental moments. I think my mom saw me as strong and self-sufficient, and that's the story I got too, that I didn't need attachment in the same way, that I liked being alone, and that I was different.
Of course, my mom tried to understand me, but I think we just spoke different languages. We were on totally different wavelengths. And I had huge sensory challenges that often led to frequent meltdowns. I hated wearing tights and shoes and all the traditionally female type of garments. I hated getting dressed. It felt like a battle. And I walked and I talked early. I was highly intelligent and verbal. They called me motor mouth as a nickname.
At one of my own birthday parties, I remember spacing out soda bottles exactly equidistant apart, locked into a hyper-focused trance. While I was arranging these soda bottles, my mom was like, Katie, what are you doing? And she startled me out of this trance I was in. I think I was maybe 11 or 12. And that was the first time I realized that really how I experienced the world might not be how other people experienced it.
And I learned very early on that my sensitivity, my bigness, my voice needed to be quieter. I had to suppress the parts of me that didn't match what people expected. My love of being alone, my need for space. I learned to perform connection even when it drained me. And I carried those moments in my body for a long time. I carried the pain of being misunderstood by adults
well into adulthood until I did the actual embodiment work around that. I carried the pain of being labeled too aggressive by other parents who didn't understand my hyperactive behavior. I carried the pain of having to push myself to be social even when it would cost me everything. When I became a stepmother, I knew I had done a lot of emotional work. I had really come into like my emotional maturity. I understood how my meltdowns and emotional waves work.
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I had learned to regulate my emotions and to listen and to guide and to lead. And I was able to pass that emotional understanding and maturity down to my stepson. I was able to show him that it's not about how book smart you are while going through school, but how much you can stay regulated and how willing you are to take the lead and go that extra step.
I was able to also model how to include yourself and how celebrate yourself even if people aren't available to celebrate with you. My stepson, he just graduated with his associates from college and it was a challenging journey for him through school, one that I deeply relate to. And I could not be more proud of how emotionally resilient he has been to not only get through school,
but to get all the way to the end and celebrate and surprise himself with what he is capable of every single step of the way. There are places in parenthood where I really thrive because I have interpersonal gifts and because I've done the work to be emotionally regulated and self-led, but there are other areas too, especially as a neurodivergent mama where like the sensory overwhelm,
my gosh, that is so real. Sound doesn't always bother me, but when it bothers me, it really bothers me. And it's so strange because I can never tell when it's going to be one or the other, right? Sometimes I stim to music, I play music really loud on repeat, I dance around to it, but sometimes I need total silence. And living in a household where there is a shared sound space, it's
such a challenge for me, even if I love living with my family and all the stuff that comes with it, like seeing the people I love the most first thing in the morning, right? But like the sound aspect is really hard. I think in order for me to like be at my most regulated, I need like a room to myself where I can dance and turn up the music or be quiet and journal. And it's got to be like a big open space, right?
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ADHD also makes things like meal planning, cleaning routines, and staying on top of school schedules really, really hard. The executive dysfunction is real. I do okay with the organization piece because I think the autistic side of me is very much like I have to have things organized so I can visually navigate my space so it doesn't get overwhelming. But the executive dysfunction is real.
Meal planning, self-care with food, it's a challenge. Now, my husband, he is fully present and the main parent, but because women are conditioned to be the default parent, the default emotional regulator, typically the default everything, even if he's super active, there's like a huge weight of expectation as a female being a parent, right? And when you're neurodivergent, the weight of that often becomes unsustainable.
When we start thinking about cultural pressure to be the perfect mom, I'm sure some people out there listening are like, yeah, being the perfect mom is such an added pressure. But for me, I'm not here for that. I actually don't fucking care. That version of motherhood doesn't even feel like it applies to me. I will never be in any type of competition to be the perfect mom, right? Being a good mother to me means modeling
rest so your children or the young humans that you are raising know that they can rest too. Being a good mother means taking time to myself and like modeling how to express needs, consent, and boundaries. Being honest about my sensory challenges so we can de-stigmatize them for the other neurodivergent people that I live with. Showing my steps on what emotional leadership looks like by living it and not by faking it.
is good parenting. And part of that honesty includes owning the days that are really hard. The days when I forget something important, the days when I need to leave the room or when I need to go cry in the bathroom, those are still parenting days and they're still showing our younger humans how to be a human days, right? And those parts of the lived experience, they deserve to be named and acknowledged and cared for as well.
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And there's another side of parenthood that is particularly challenging for a lot of people who are neurodivergent, myself included, right? Like my journey with ADHD medication has been so crucial. I need it for school. I'm back in college at 44 and without it, like I really struggled to process information in a way that sticks on a timeline that works for traditional education. So when I take medication, whether it's stimulant or non-stimulant,
It helps me keep up with a timeline that just like is not native to me, right? But something that sucks is I can't take ADHD medication while pregnant or while trying to get pregnant. And I would love to try again for a baby. I've had, again, two miscarriages, but the idea of doing school and running a business and trying to conceive all without medication, that is very overwhelming. And if you're neurodivergent and you use supportive medications,
that actually work for you. know what I'm talking about. too, mean, medications can work for maintenance on an ongoing basis, but sometimes the medications that I use are just for while I'm in school. And it's always under the care of a therapist. And during those times, the medication empowers me to push past my baseline capacity because that's what medication does, right? In a system that wasn't designed to be flexible, accommodating,
honoring of an individual person's pace, medication helps supplement so I can put my attention in places that empower me to show up in ways that are essential for survival in those systems that weren't designed with me in mind. I can stretch into new levels of functioning, whether it's in school or in motherhood, but my body is always going to demand a recovery period after a sprint on a timeline that is outside of how I naturally work.
which is why starting a business that works with how I work was so crucial. But like going back to school to learn things that help me grow my business or truly deliver on what I am meant to do in this life, traditional education and getting access to that information is important, but it still works on a traditional timeline. And so the paradox is sometimes you have to work within a system in order to transform it. And when it comes to fertility, my body,
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has held a lot. know a lot of women experience this through motherhood, fertility journeys, being neurodivergent or being like, you know, in my age range, I'm 44 years old. Again, we do things sometimes on a different timeline when we're neurodivergent. And again, I had two miscarriages. And as someone who's neurodivergent, that experience was intensified. I feel everything very deeply, like every shift in my body.
every wave of loss, but I also have this like logical way of understanding death and relating to it. I see it as a natural, beautiful part of life. So I didn't like spiral emotionally in the way people might expect. I felt the grief. Yes, I felt the disappointment. I felt the loss of potential, but I also understood that sometimes nature just doesn't go how you want it to go. What was hard was not just
the miscarriage, but the narrative I had to rewrite as someone who is socialized as neurodivergent in an ableist system. And if you're neurodivergent, you know which narrative I'm talking about, right? The one that says, first, you couldn't finish your degree on time. Now you can't carry a pregnancy either. You're having a failure to launch moment. You're having another milestone pass you by that you're not a part of.
I had to really fight the lie that became embodied as a false truth because of internalized ableism that said that my brain and body was somehow broken or that my timeline was wrong. When what the actual truth is, is our systems in society aren't built for neurodivergent people. We are asked to meet timelines that
are unrealistic or don't reflect our reality or support our bodies in healthy ways. And when we don't meet those timelines, the world tries to convince us that we are the problem. You know, I really wish doctors, therapists, loved ones, anyone understood that for neurodivergent people, time just works differently. Recovery just works differently. And I needed more time physically after my miscarriage. But mentally, like I processed it quickly again.
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That's the paradox of being me. And I just want to make some space for that, to be a person of paradox, to be a complex neurodivergent woman navigating motherhood. But when I stepped into step motherhood, I did it like I do everything. I went in head first, no looking back, heart wide open. I didn't have fear. I had a love and a willingness to learn as I go.
And I felt capable of figuring it out and the role of guiding, loving, teaching, supporting, it came very naturally. I stepped in with full presence. I was there for the conversations. I was available for the growth and I just, I just love them. I think that's half the battle in parenting is just like loving them and letting them see you love them even if imperfectly. But
You know, being neurodivergent in a blended family came with a lot of landmines. Of course, it wasn't intentional, but there were times early on where I became the scapegoat for my new family's unprocessed pain about divorce. Children and young people need to make sense of divorce. And when they go to do that, it's a lot easier to say that the new person who's entered the mix is to blame than to try to understand the complexities of a relationship that didn't work out.
And whether it's parenthood or stepparenthood, whether you're navigating in-laws or a new step family that you're being blended into, it can trigger some stuff around the neurodivergent lived experience. I was already used to being othered, right? I think that's a common shared experience when you're neurodivergent, used to being like the other one. But this was different. I was also holding space for kids
coming out on the other end of crisis. And I was doing that while I was secretly pregnant. And then I was still holding that space while I was secretly miscarrying. And I had to keep holding that space because the kids were still healing and we weren't sure if they could handle more life changes. And so I held my life experience very quietly during that time. And being neurodivergent,
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and my neurodivergence shape how I showed up at that time. It made some things harder and other things felt easier. Like it felt real easy to speak to any learning challenges my stepkids experienced in school and to speak to
developing a positive self-image from my own personal lived experiences in some of the same areas. No matter how different our individual experiences, there was a lot of through lines in the neurodivergent lived experience. I was able to bring warmth and words that illuminated experiences that felt hard to name or articulate. But as an individual, like I also needed solitude. And I know my family can feel when I need solitude and withdraw.
because I'm like processing big emotions, but I know they understand because they need their time alone too to process. Every stepmom especially, I know every mother does, but every stepmom especially feels invisible at some point, especially early on where kids had their whole worlds flipped upside down and they want stability. Even if they like you, as a stepmom, you're just like a reminder of change.
And change and growth is hard. And so I had to grieve that too, that like I was the reminder of change and that that change didn't feel like a positive association. During that time, I did a lot of journaling. I tried to carve out space to like process how I was feeling. But honestly, I wish I had the tools that I have now back then when I first became a stepparent. And that's okay because like
Now I use those tools to build something better. But at the time, navigating all that without the tools that I have now was probably much harder than it needed to be. But I did go through that hard process where I intentionally grieved the loss of my milestones that I didn't reach in the time that I thought I would reach them because I was comparing my timeline to a neurotypical standard. I grieved
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the babies that I didn't carry to term. I grieved the degree I didn't finish in my 20s, the career that looked good on paper but wasn't a match for my true talents and purpose and didn't actually lead to happiness. I grieved the timeline that I really thought I was supposed to be on. sense of lost time because you're comparing your timeline to a neurotypical standard is something that so many people who are neurodivergent
or who have invisible disabilities can deeply relate to. But, you know, I'm re-parenting myself now and I have been for quite a while re-mothering. I learned to see my neurodivergence not as something to fix but as brilliance in its own timing and its own rhythm without an apology.
And I want to model that for the next generation, for my stepkids, for other kids who are learning to own their identity. That you can be a person and a parent at the same time. That your humanity isn't a weakness or a flaw. It's the whole fucking point. And the most sacred part of this whole story, know, reclaiming my identity has made me
the mother that I needed. I was also made to be my stepson's stepmother. I see him, I support his brilliance, I love him with a depth that I didn't know I had access to before this journey. And as a neurodivergent mother who refuses to mask for anyone, I've become a walking permission slip for him and for others to fully be themselves.
because the world doesn't need more conformity. It needs change. It needs genuine, positive change. It needs to be shown different people who do things differently. So with that in mind, I wanna give you some empowering tips for being a mom while being neurodivergent because we know that shit is not easy, especially if you're navigating ADHD, autism, or other cognitive differences.
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So here's the part where you might want to take some mental notes or actually write some stuff down. First and foremost, embrace your brain, not the mom mold. You don't have to parent like the Pinterest perfect neurotypical mom. Your intuitive, non-linear, outside the box brain has gifts. Lean into them. Create systems that match your executive function style. Forget rigid routines if they don't work. You don't have to be the mom who's a part of the 5 a.m. club who gets up.
perfectly meditates journals and like works out like if that's not you boo, that's not you. That's okay. Try visual schedules instead set alarms try habit stacking or even playful cues like songs or movement flexibility is gonna be your superpower This next hot tip is literally my favorite Sensory care is self-care Do not underestimate
how much noise, clutter, or touch can affect you. Create sensory safe zones and boundaries, even if that means like noise-canceling headphones or locked bathroom time. This is something a lot of my clients take so much pleasure in discovering, how to set boundaries around your sensory care as self-care. When you start doing that, your cup
begins to stay so much more full and you find yourself burning out way less because sensory information is a lot to process, especially if you have ADHD and you don't have a filter. So setting up boundaries around your sensory care can be everything.
Another game changer is prioritizing transitions for you and your kids. Neurodivergent brains can struggle with starting and stopping. So building in buffer time, like using countdowns, visual timers, or movement rituals to actually shift gears can be a huge help. Now this is a big mindset thing. Let go of shame around quote unquote messy days. Some days the executive function tank is just empty.
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That's not a failure, it's a signal. It's a signal that you need to honor rest and model what it looks like to be a human and not be performative. One of the most important tips I can give you too is to redefine what quote unquote good parenting means. It is not about doing it all. It's about practicing discernment and it's about showing up and repairing after ruptures and raising kids who no love can be imperfect.
and real at the same time and that love can require you to set boundaries, prioritize, and make choices. Also, use special interests and hyper-focus to your advantage. this is something that exists in your world, especially like my people on the spectrum, hyper-focus and special interests can be used to your advantage. They could be turned into connection points with your kids, whether that's building, storytelling, music, or crafting some
weirdly amazing meal plan, leverage what is already working. If hyper-focus and special interest is a thing, lean into it, use it as a connection point. Another big tip is asking for help before you are actually drowning. You do not need to be at the point where everything is like a five alarm fire to ask for help. You can ask early to avoid burnout and to practice burnout prevention.
That might mean co-regulating with your partner or even a friend. It might mean asking your child for patience. It might be tapping into your community. Interdependence is a strength, not a failure. Fostering healthy interdependence and healthy co-regulating is very different than codependent behavior. So don't be afraid to ask for help way before it becomes a crisis.
Also practice self-forgiveness like it's a daily vitamin. If you are popping vitamin B and taking like your magnesium on a daily basis, you should be popping self-forgiveness along with it. Neurodivergent moms often carry layers of internalized guilt. Mistakes do not mean you're broken. They are opportunities for repair and deeper connection. They are opportunities to let your human side show. And then last but not least,
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make space for your own identity. Being neurodivergent means your needs got sidelined probably very early on in life. Reclaim your sense of play, your passions, your desires, your time. Your kids benefit from seeing you in your joy, in your aliveness, and actively creating your life and going for your desires.
As we're ending all my tips on the subject of identity, I want to share an open letter that I wrote a while ago to women seeking to reclaim their neurodivergent identity. And I believe it's especially potent for neurodivergent mothers. This is an open letter to women who feel different, not included or othered in your families, schools, at work, in your communities, or by society at large.
I hope you come to know your brilliance. I pray that someone comes along and shows you that there is power in your otherness. I pray you find an environment where if you wanted to, you could come up for air. I pray that the pressure of trying to shove your bigness into the small boxes of mainstream understanding is relieved by the realization of your greatness.
I pray you acquire the know-how to stop overthinking, to stop needing to explain yourself and to get into your body and allow yourself to feel the power of your own presence. I pray that you have spaces that allow you to explore your own authentic expression with wild abandon. I pray you have the courage to seize and create opportunities for the kind of self-acceptance
where you fully own and embody both your otherness and your place in community with women who were born to lead like you. I pray that someone sees your beauty, your genius, your power, and that you allow it to be a mirror and allow that to grow within you and to be nurtured by well-equipped and well-intended humans. I pray.
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You practice self-inclusion and include yourself in all the joy and pleasure this world has to offer. I pray you do the hard work of actually acting like you deserve patience, support, and love because you do. But most of all, I pray you come to know your brilliance and stay forever in that knowing.
For as you know your brilliance, beyond your shadows, beyond your doubts, everything will start to open up for you and you will receive your most true desires. I love you and I hope you love you too.
If this episode touched you, please share it with someone who needs it. Tag me on Facebook or Instagram at PlayBigQueen and let me know what landed for you. And if you're navigating neurodivergence and motherhood in any form, you are so not alone. You are building something radical and you belong. and by the way, if you are going through a transformation and you are stepping into new levels of leadership,
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And it's incredible how things start transforming quickly when you slow down and let yourself be supported by people who understand how you work and take your big audacious dreams seriously. If you've been waiting for the right time to finally play big, but from a place of more ease and flow, this is your sign. You can email me at info at playbigqueen.com or go to playbigqueensaccountability.com to join.
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I want you to know that my door is always open and I will always make space for you to be heard and to honor your experience. The views expressed in this podcast are through the lens of my personal identity and my own lived experience. I am a European mix, Mediterranean mutt, who is an Italian, Sicilian, cis heterosexual woman born in New York, experiencing the world in a white body as a multiply neurodivergent.
who lives in a neurodiverse and racially blended family. And like everyone else, my one single perspective comes with its own limitations. I have done personal and professional work around anti-racism, diversity, equity, equality, and inclusion. I am not a therapist or doctor, and any coaching or advice cannot take the place of professional medical, mental health, or healing help. However, that being said,
What happens in my work is often a very powerful additional supplemental or alternative way to heal around identity work, mindset and emotional wellness. Although I am not a licensed therapist, it is worth noting that in addition to being a mentor, I am trained and certified in emergency medicine and response. I have rendered care to over 20,000 patients in the course of my career. I have taught over 15,000 students, many of which
at learning disabilities that were undiagnosed and came from diverse cultural backgrounds. I was also a private health college adjunct professor who was responsible for training medical professionals on how to respond to trauma and behavioral emergencies. If you approach me with any concern, you will be met with professionalism, compassion, tact, understanding, support, and a readiness and a willingness to advocate for your needs. That being said, sometimes I just get it wrong.
I am a human being on my own growth journey after all. When I mess up, I'm always available for courageous and crucial conversation that makes way for growth and healing. Your experience and voice matters to me. I sincerely welcome any feedback you feel called to share. You can email your comments or concerns to info at playbigqueen.com knowing that I am open to having any and all crucial conversations needed. Okay.
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Remember, you are brilliant. Celebrate yourself. Value your own unique way and honor your own timing. Because you can totally create a life and business that feels good and is successful on your terms. Remember to release expectations of what you think your Play Big process should look like and be willing to do the work that needs to be done to Play Big. But most of all, when you come face to face with your boldest desires, remember to trust yourself.
and play big.
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Hi, queen. I see you're in it for the long game. If you reach this part of the podcast episode, it means you're interested in learning more about my work, my values, my mission, and my community. So let's go deeper together. I am here to activate neurodivergent women to play bigger and to show you that you are so capable of doing big things and that if you value your own unique way and honor your own timing, you will learn to receive your boldest desires and so much more.
In my world, what makes you different is valued, celebrated, honored, and welcome. I welcome all who identify as female and non-binary folk in my Play Big Queens community. We believe in and support LGBTQIA plus 2S, Black Lives Matter, women's and pro-choice rights, and obviously intersectional identities, including disabilities, neurodivergence, and religious beliefs. Personally, I am pro sex worker rights.
pro-Palestinian liberation, against Islamophobia, and against anti-Semitism, and I'm also against any cult-like religions that use beliefs as an excuse to indoctrinate people into abusive, autocratic systems. Like many neurodivergent people, we have big hearts and a strong sense of social justice around here. You are encouraged to stay and play in our Play Big Queen community if you share these values. For those who find the word queen does not resonate.
Perhaps because of imperial associations, the Play Big self archetype can take any form and the invitation and activation remains the same. To learn to embody your Play Big self, to operate from love instead of fear, to go on a Play Big journey in community because you know that no Play Big queen can truly Play Big.
alone. To decide to cultivate the courage to use your voice, unmask, reclaim, embrace, and embody your brilliance and create a life and business that works with the unique way that you work. Through this work, you will come to know the truth of your brilliance deeply. And as you come to know your authentic self, more and more will begin to open up for you. Knowing your unique brilliance will lead to great success and true belonging. In this world, we take the pressure off.
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and learn to step off the traditional path so you can blaze your own trail. My mission is to get you motivated, inspired, and equipped to get into massive action and go on your very own Play Big journey. My mission is to empower at least 10,000 women to fully step into their Play Big self by offering healing, transformative, inclusive, and neurodiverse affirming coaching and content.
Through innovative coaching programs, courses, and master classes, we provide the tools, support, sustainability, and community needed to help each woman embrace her unique path to confidence, success, and meaningful impact. If just 10,000 women with invisible disabilities and their allies were empowered with neurodiverse affirming and inclusive communication to express their unique brilliance, step into their authority and autonomy and lead,
the world would experience a profound shift towards inclusivity, innovation, and empathy. These women would break through societal limitations, modeling resilience, creativity, and strength of diversity. Their voices and perspectives, often shaped by unique experiences with challenges and perseverance, would redefine business leadership, inspire systemic change, and create spaces where diverse ways of thinking are not just accepted.
but celebrated. Industries and communities would become more accessible and inclusive with practices that honor varied ways of working, communicating, and achieving. This change would ripple into every area of life and society. Workplaces would become more adaptable, offering a culture of respect for individual strengths, health care, and education systems.
would improve centering accessibility and compassion in their approaches and policies would evolve to better support those with invisible challenges benefiting society as a whole. So many women with so much potential are shrinking in the face of their own brilliance, just sitting on the sidelines waiting for permission instead of getting in the game. The activation of the latent potential in these women, their empowerment, making them visible.
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would inspire others, reduce stigma around invisible disabilities, and encourage everyone to lead authentically. Their successes will light the way for countless more women to rise, creating a culture of true diversity where every person feels valued, included, and emboldened to contribute their brilliance and lead with it. If you know you are ready for more clarity, confidence, and you want to embody your play big self and be supported around creating the
big vision for your life and business, then send me an email at info at playbigqueen.com telling me why this work is so important for you and we can explore opportunities to work together and make your Play Big dreams a reality.
